from Activity to Connection: stop cooking and start looking
O'Brien points out that the 'driving questions' that underlie our work have a
great impact on the direction, shape, and outcome of that work.
were reminded of this last year when we visited an 'adult day program'
that had been developed on the basis of the question "What can we do to
replace school for young adults with disabilities who have 'aged out' of school?"
Beginning with that
question, the founders created something that had the shape of a school – a
program based in a building, people with disabilities ‘attending’ with
'peers' (other students with disabilities), language that focused on skill
development, and so on.
many years, the driving question, "How can we create an opportunity for people
who are not working to fill their time and be productive?" almost always generated something
that had the shape of a factory – the sheltered workshop.
That pattern changed when some of the driving questions changed, and we
saw the emergence of supported employment, micro-enterprise projects, etc.
driving question, “What can we do to provide activity for people who have
nothing to do during the day?” or even, “How can we make it possible for each
person do what they enjoy during the day?” has tended to generate something in the
shape of a perpetual series of supported 'activities', excursions, or even entertainments – 'van therapy', 'mall therapy', etc.
'developmental day programs' seem to be constructed on the basis of the
first two questions. People arrive at a facility where they engage in a
series of supported learning, recreational, occupational, therapeutic, or (we
shudder) 'maintenance' activities.
recently, we've seen the development of a number of 'community-based activity
that seem to be based on the third question.
Staff may accompany someone (or a group of someones) to a local
swimming pool, or go on a hike, or even spend an evening at a local pub.
But the focus seems to remain on the activity per se, rather than on strategic
thinking about how the activity might offer a path towards deepening connections.
often involve some positive elements – pleasant
events, positive interactions, maybe even some skill development.
But unless they are strategically focused on deepening connections,
activities alone are unlikely to lead towards meaningful relationships and
O'Brien reminds us that as
soon as we change the driving questions, we open doors to new possibilities.
Here's are a couple of examples:
colleagues who work in a rural community have always helped the people
they support to attend an annual community dinner and barn dance - a delightful
event, especially if you like barbeque. Visiting with staff, we began to explore the possibility
that a couple of the people they support might become involved with the group that sponsors and organizes the dinner
and dance. There's always a lot of
work involved and all kinds of contributions are welcome.
Instead of one great evening, there could be an opportunity for a
few people to be involved for months prior to the event, which opens up the possibility of
developing relationships with local citizens who represent many different kinds
of connections - local farmers, family members, church members, people involved
in civic life.
while back, we visited a facility-based day program (school-without-end) where one of the activities
was cooking. 'Cooking-as-an-activity' involved staff assisting people to
make muffins and other desserts in the facility’s kitchen. The benefits? An
enjoyable hour or two. A tasty product
that could be shared with friends and family.
Some learning outcomes in terms of reading and following recipes,
'functional' cooking skills, etc.
as the support staff began to explore alternative questions, they started thinking about
The first thing they realized was that they needed to stop
cooking and start looking. Being
a good detective became an interesting new element in their job descriptions.
They began to envision helping Sara, who loves to cook, connect with a
local gourmet group that gathers in members’ homes to enjoy ethnic
dinners and share food, music, and conversation.
If such a group didn't already exist, they could work on finding people
who might be interested in starting such a group.
contains all of the positive elements involved in ‘cooking-as-activity’. But
it also creates opportunities for Sara to meet on a regular basis with people
who share the same passion and contribute to a socially significant effort.
She might even come to be recognized as one of the organizers of a
delightful social event.
our conversation developed, we helped Sara, a couple of the program staff,
Sara's mother, and the pastor from her church create a new
personal plan. Sara had been in the
program for some time, and planning usually took the form of asking 'what
activity should we add to the calendar' - focusing on interest and skill
development, but without particularly focusing on connections.
several new opportunities presented themselves, including the idea of
'cooking-as-connection', 'gardening-as-connection’, and the idea of creating a
community folk dance group. The pastor came up with the dance group idea as soon
as he heard that Sara loved to dance. He
had a real personal interest – he missed the folk dancing that
was part of his life before he came to British Columbia. He absolutely understood what we were working on, and
made a commitment to support several connections for Sara, including
an involvement with a group of women who cook for all the church events.
a personal note, two years ago, when we hired a tutor / assistant for Amber, we
said, "Let go of the curriculum. What
we want you to do is to pay a lot of attention to the things that interest
Amber, and follow those threads of interest in the direction of companionship,
communication, connection, and contribution.
an example of what we mean. Right
now, Amber is interested in figuring out how to deal with garden slugs without
having to kill them. How much she
knows, or learns, about garden slugs is far less important than working on the
connections. Who else cares
passionately about that question? What
groups in our community are interested in the question of earth-friendly
gardening? Where could she make a
meaningful contribution? Where
would her interest in that topic be welcomed and celebrated?"
of the directions this question is leading is towards a neighbourhood learning exchange, and
Amber is beginning to get involved with a group that focuses on some watershed issues that
effect our whole community.
We'll keep you posted.
and Faye Wetherow
great community systematically identifies and mobilizes the gifts of each of its members."
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